Alright, we’ve talked about what boundaries are, how to set them, and how to communicate them. But what happens when someone straight-up ignores them? Because let’s be honest—this happens a lot, especially in BIPOC communities where boundaries were often seen as disrespectful rather than necessary.

So, you’ve realized that boundaries are a thing (welcome to the club!). But knowing you need them and actually setting them? Two very different things. The truth is, learning to set boundaries is a skill, and like any skill, you’re going to stumble before you master it. And guess what? That’s totally okay. 🙌🏾

So, we’ve established that boundaries aren’t disrespectful (despite what your childhood might have taught you). But now let’s get into the real question: What even ARE boundaries? And just as importantly, what are they NOT? 🤔

Let’s be real—many of us grew up in households where the mere act of saying “no” was seen as a personal attack. If you dared to say, “I don’t want to hug Uncle Joe,” suddenly you were “acting grown.” If you asked for privacy, you were “being secretive.” If you expressed your own needs, you were “too much.” Sound familiar? 👀